Tuesday, April 24, 2012

10 Commandents of Leadership

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Sometimes I come across something that shakes me to really dig deep and change for the greater good. And I can't help but share it with the same hope it will for someone else. A while back I posted about THE SELF CONFIDENCE FORMULA. Today's is in regards to Leadership. And why everyone isn't a leader. Being a leader requires you to continue to move forward regardless of the circumstances. 
The Ten Commandments of Leadership 
A poem hangs on the wall at Mother Teresa's orphanage in India. For all who are called to lead, it is a great reminder of what we should do:
1. People are illogical, unreasonable and self-centered (including me). Love them anyway.
2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
6. The biggest people with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the littlest people with the littlest ideas. Think big anyway.
7. People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
9. People really need help, but may attack you if you do help them. Help them anyway.
10. Give the world the best you have and you will get kicked in the teeth. Give the best you have anyway.


Wednesday, April 11, 2012

The Good, The Bad and The Ugly Truth About Change....

A while back I wrote on, HOW CAN I REALLY CHANGE FOR THE BETTER? In that post we discussed what it will actually take for us to really not only decide to make a change but actually go for it.

What did you say?!?!

If you had a chance to read that POST you are now familiar to know what it takes to be mentally and emotionally ready to change. Now its time to address what you are up against when you go through the process of changing.

Lets get one straight... CHANGE IS HARD!

This statement is understood by the 99% of failures and the 1% of winners. They all hate doing the same things over and over again. The difference is the winners do them anyway. This why people don't change their bad habits or implement good habits into their lives.

The Cold HARD Truth About Change

When it comes to breaking bad habits and starting new healthy ones it is mandatory that you are patience with yourself. If you have spent 5, 10, 20, 30 years or more repeating the behaviors you are trying to break you have got to expect it is going to take some time to change those for the better.

Science has shown that patterns of thoughts and actions repeated many times over create what's called a neuro-signature or a "brain groove," or a series of interconnected neurons that carry the thought patterns of a particular habit. Attention feeds the habit. When we give our attention to a habit, we activate the brain groove, releasing the thoughts, desires, and actions related to that habit. Luckily, our brain our malleable (like our muscles in our body:-). If we stop giving attention to the bad habits, those grooves weaken i.e. stop working out. When we form new habits, we drive new grooves deeper with each repetition, eventually overpowering the previous ones.

This process (burning new grooves into your brain) will take time. Be patient with yourself. If you fall off the wagon, brush yourself off vs. beat yourself up! And try again! We will fail, we will make mistakes, we are already not perfect by design. If what you are doing is not working they find another way, ask your coach, mentor or someone you respect. Your mistakes are a test to prove to yourself that you feel worth it to change and a way to reinforce your commitment and consistency for permanent change. By you failing once, twice, ten or a hundred times and picking yourself back up and starting again you will build the confidence and personal integrity to believe in yourself to win no matter the situation or circumstance is!!!

My rule of thumb is the harder it is, the longer it takes, the more you have to struggle to succeed, the BIGGER the payoff and the sweeter the reward. If you 'feel' like you try and try with no success and are just about to give in and give up....STOP! You are getting closer but not quite there yet.

Keep pressing on!

Monday, April 2, 2012

Mental WOD 29: The 'NOT' To Do List...

I'm scurred!

When we talk about getting ahead in life or trying to achieve our goals or even what we must get done throughout our day, week and life we make TO DO LISTS.

For most of us the problem with hitting our goals is not wanting too or even trying too. It is what we are doing wrong! All of us are great at starting out on our GOALS, but most of us are not great at finishing them.

I hear my friends (acquaintances) say all the time:

-"I just started this new diet!" How their your weight now (1 year later)?
-"I am starting my new workout program on Monday". Are they still on that program 6 months later?
-How is that marathon training going?
-Gotta love New Year's Resolutions right?!

What is getting in the way? There are waay too many distractions out in our lives constantly throwing hurdles in front of us and taking our attention off our plans. TIME is crucial to us and one of the things in our lives that we can't get back. So in order to achieve what we want we have to value it and use it wisely.

For this week's Mental WOD, ask yourself the following questions:

What are willing NOT to achieve?
What DOESN'T make you happy?
What is NOT important to you?
What gets in the way?

This 'NOT' To Do List can be equally if not more valuable than your traditional To Do List.