Thursday, May 16, 2013

How To Constructively Vent...

Once in a while I read something and it hits me hard... Really HARD! I read just that on Kobe Bryant's facebook page back on April 13 the night after he torn his achilles...

This is such BS! All the training and sacrifice just flew out the window with one step that I've done millions of times! The frustration is unbearable. The anger is rage. Why the hell did this happen ?!? Makes no damn sense. Now I'm supposed to come back from this and be the same player Or better at 35?!? How in the world am I supposed to do that?? I have NO CLUE. Do I have the consistent will to overcome this thing? Maybe I should break out the rocking chair and reminisce on the career that was. Maybe this is how my book ends. Maybe Father Time has defeated me...Then again maybe not! It's 3:30am, my foot feels like dead weight, my head is spinning from the pain meds and I'm wide awake. Forgive my Venting but what's the purpose of social media if I won't bring it to you Real No Image?? Feels good to vent, let it out. To feel as if THIS is the WORST thing EVER! Because After ALL the venting, a real perspective sets in. There are far greater issues/challenges in the world then a torn achilles. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, find the silver lining and get to work with the same belief, same drive and same conviction as ever. One day, the beginning of a new career journey will commence. Today is NOT that day. "If you see me in a fight with a bear, prey for the bear". Ive always loved that quote. Thats "mamba mentality" we don't quit, we don't cower, we don't run. We endure and conquer.
I know it's a long post but I'm Facebook Venting LOL. Maybe now I can actually get some sleep and be excited for surgery tomorrow. First step of a new challenge. Guess I will be Coach Vino the rest of this season. I have faith in my teammates. They will come thru. Thank you for all your prayers and support. Much Love Always.
Mamba Out

Everytime I fall down the road of feeling sorry for myself I do anything and everything I can to pull myself out of it. This post really does just that for me.

A couple of phrases that hit me:

-Feels good to vent, let it out. To feel as if THIS is the WORST thing EVER! Because After ALL the venting, a real perspective sets in. There are far greater issues/challenges in the world then a torn achilles. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, find the silver lining and get to work with the same belief, same drive and same conviction as ever. 

Sometimes it is healthy to get things out of your head by verbally voicing your thoughts. We tend to figure out our own problems when we vent for the good. When you constructively vent you are finding the truth to your feelings. Most people I find destructively vent, by venting to complain with no real solution because you want others to feel sorry for you. 

-If you see me in a fight with a bear, prey for the bear". Ive always loved that quote. Thats "mamba mentality" we don't quit, we don't cower, we don't run. We endure and conquer.

People typically are scared and run away from the unknown or uncomfortable. You simply must realize that fear is fuel for progress, growth and change. It is a natural instinct we have been given to help push us. Those who use fear for it's natural intent are the ones who we look up to in life. Be that person who you ultimately want to be. 

Life is not supposed to be easy. Life can however be simple. We have information and people that have  already walked the path we are on today. They have left behind their cliff notes, stories, tips and tricks. We have the ability to move forward faster then they did. We just have to commit, believe and achieve. 

What part of Kobe's 'vent' hit you?

What are your thoughts about it?

Thursday, May 9, 2013

Old YOU vs. Younger YOU...

The Wall Says it ALL...

I was listening to an interview with Pete Cashmore and the question was posed to him, "What advice would today's 'Pete Cashmore' tell the before he started 'Pete Cashmore' to help him with his success? 

He had a great response. I HIGHLY suggest you pick up the June issue of SUCCESS MAGAZINE and listen to the interview. 

I think we have all at one point in our lives asked ourselves, "If we could travel back in time and give some life advice to the younger version of ourselves, what would we say"???

I wrote a blog about it back in 2011, WHAT IF YOU COULD OF... With these questions about this topic:

Knowing what you know today, knowing what you have learned from your life experiences, and you had the opportunity to write yourself a letter, what would it say??? 

What would you say? 

What life lessons have you learned that you wish you would have known back then?

What do you think would happen if you knew what you know today, back then, and how could you life be different today?

Now let's flip it around... Whaaaat???

Thursday, April 25, 2013

ThrowBack Thursday... Associations and Peers

My wife and I have been working out in the backyard lately. With a squat rack, some weights, a kettle bell, bands and the California sun we have everything we need. The more we are out in the backyard the more my little sister watches us. She becomes curious as to what is going on. She then gets off the couch from watching TV and wants to come outside and play. She see's what we are doing and wants to join. It got me thinking if we weren't there and there were no backyard workouts would she just sit and watch TV? They say that kids learn more of what they see and observe vs. what you tell them to do. I believe adults are the same way. 

The power of our peers is vital to how our lives will turn out. You surround yourself with better people than you, you will rise to the level of your peers. You surround yourself with complainers, negative nancy's and self sabotagers you will eventually pick up their traits. 

For a lot of us it's the HARD truth. More times than not the people that aren't best for our goals and dreams are the people that are closest to us (best friends and family members) so it is a very tough situation. 

Here are 2 ThrowBack posts to help you if you are in this situation currently:

Post to the comments your thoughts. 

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Every Time I Fail I...

Tip #4 is go to a place of peace to refuel and refocus.

I haven't failed. I've found 10,000 ways that don't work. -Thomas Edison, US inventor

I feel the common perception of failure is a bad thing. 

All successful people fail. The more successful they are the more they fail. Most of them I bet would admit they have failed many more times then they have succeeded.

What do you do when you fail? 

Stay down and give up? Try something else? Bounce back and be better?

It is easy to get caught up in our failures, setbacks and struggles but how is that going to improve your situation? It's not! 

The reason why the successful are successful is not the lack of failure they have experienced (because they actually fail more) but how they respond to, learn from and act when those setbacks occur. 

Here are 3 very simple steps to guide you to be on the path to success. 

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

In It for the Long Haul.

Not stopping. Just tying her shoes.

Starting a workout program can be intimidating, nerve racking, and feel overwhelming at first.

Succeeding with that same workout program and turning it into a lifestyle can be even harder.

During my years as a coach I've noticed that most people quit working out because they failed to understand and address the non-physical issues with being successful in making exercise a life long habit. It's usually not the exercising itself that makes them decide to quit it's the issues they don't address before they start.

Physical: The physical issues are the most popular and usually the first type of goals/reasons we think about when we start on a FITness program. The physical issues are things such as the type of exercises/program, your health, your fitness level and nutrition. Most people have at least a vague idea of how they think they want to exercise and know their general health and fitness level.

Everyone wants to look better. That is a great thing! Wanting to improve your physical body is tangible and relatively easy to determine at the start. I believe you need to be selfish with your physical goals because that is going to help you in the beginning when you don't want to go workout. Being selfish will help you do things your brain doesn't want you to do in the moment i.e. workout!

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Guidelines to a Good Challenge

Bicep curl challenge???

I am all about embarking on challenges personally and coaching others. My number #1 goal as a FITness/Success coach is to get someone to do and achieve more than they ever thought they could mentally just as much as physically. Challenges work for all types of people...

The person who has just not got it going and can't seem to get themselves off the couch and in the game.

The person that is consistently working but has fallen into a plateau and is resulting in a mediocre mindset and mediocre actions. 

The person that is always on the hunt for more. The person that is never satisfied and wants to continue to push the envelop of success for themselves and others. 

Challenges do one of two things:

A challenge can simply overwhelm you and defeat you. 

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Consistency is the KING of All Success

My AM Ritual Items...

One of my favorite quotes, "Consistent daily action builds extraordinary outcomes."

Consistency is the KING of all principles if you are wanting to be successful in anything you do.

I've posted about this story on other blogs in the past but I came across it again recently and had to post, as it is a great reminder.

A young comic asked Jerry Seinfeld if he had any tips for him starting out as a comic.

What he told that young comic would benefit him for a lifetime.

I’ll pass it onto you now, as I know it will benefit you too–for a lifetime. Seinfeld told the comic that the way to be a better comic was to create better jokes. And the way to create better jokes was to write every day.

But his advice went further.